“I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I’m mourning the death of my closest friend,” Janay Rice wrote. “But to have to accept the fact that it’s reality is a nightmare in itself. No one knows the pain that [the] media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day is a horrible thing. To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass [off] for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific. THIS IS OUR LIFE! What don’t you all get. If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away, you’ve succeeded on so many levels. Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is! Ravensnation we love you!”
I don’t even know what to say to you, Janay. As a woman, I’m actually pained by your words. Attacking vulture-like media is one thing… but when you refer to “unwanted opinions”, you’re speaking to those who have been fighting for you since this horror came to light. You’re bashing on those striving to protect women like you in the future by making sure that offenders see the consequences.
Angry does not describe the emotion I feel towards you right now. Disgust is more like it. Fury. Disappointment. Because in stating that you are standing by him to show what “real love is”, you are directly telling every female in the nation that as long as you believe it’s “real love”, you stand by a man, no matter what he does.
I’m not sure if you’re aware, but your loving husband knocked you square out on the floor of a public elevator. Millions watched as a man put his fist into the side of your head, knocking you unconscious instantaneously. We watched as he dragged your lifeless body across and out of the elevator after a failed attempt at waking you up from the slumber he so-generously put you in.
So, correct me if I’m wrong, but did you just say, and I quote, “If you’re intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away,” while speaking to ANYONE & EVERYONE besides the man who did this to you in the first place? Did you just attack those attempting to protect you in order to defend the man who so violently put you here?
Again, correct me if I’m wrong, but did you just say, and I quote, “To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass [off] for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific” ? I’m sorry…. did you think, for one FUCKING moment, that the point in all this was to remove everything your husband has earned from hard work because we felt like it? Did you think, for one FUCKING moment, that this uproar is because we didn’t really like how he played last game? Did you think, for one FUCKING moment, that the people firing back at this man are doing it to hurt you?
This makes me want to personally start a petition to remove all charges from your dear husband, and allow him to walk with no fines, no jail time, and no NFL penalty. Because if you can stand there next to the man who did this to you, and say (with a straight face) that WE are the reason for your pain and your suffering and your embarrassment, then there’s something else to this fucking story.
You, whether you’d like to accept it or not, are currently the face for domestic abuse in America. You want to use this publicity to spread the message that as long as he loves you, he gets to do what he wants? There’s no part of you that wants to stand for something in this moment, considering the world is watching, and there are women out there rooting for you?
Yeah, I’m well aware that this post sounds insensitive, and maybe even a tad bit fucked up. But so were your words, when you attempted to guilt the thousands of people standing behind you.
Well, here you go. Your wish is being granted. You have one less woman standing behind you.